I m lonely but not desperate

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And waiting can be one of the loneliest things a person can do. Loneliness is very rarely a problem that can be dealt with later. Loneliness is urgent. It has no care for time and place — it will attack you and force you to feel it, whenever and wherever it feels like. I was at my loneliest when I lived alone for the first time.

It was so strange to me. While I eventually met new people, none of them felt like people I truly connected with. I was beginning to think I would spend most of my years here alone. The room I slept in felt emptier and emptier as the loneliness seeped into me more and more each day. Still, I held on to the belief that there was someone out there for me. That person never came. Eventually, it got to the point where the loneliness began to physically hurt me. It physically hurt my chest to sit alone and think about how lonely I was.

We are usually alone when we feel lonely. The feeling can attack us anywhere, but it usually picks the moments when we are by ourselves to impact us the most. What happens if that person never comes? Do we just wait? Suffer through the loneliness with the small hope that maybe someone someday is going to come and take it away?

I think Rupi Kupaur said it best in her book, Milk and Honey :. The truth is, nobody is going to come and make you complete. Most people are too busy trying to be complete themselves. A human being will never be the answer to our problems when our problems lie so deeply in our fear of being by ourselves. Maybe there is. Because what even does it mean to feel complete?

Or does it just mean to stop feeling lonely? Loneliness, like every other feeling, will always be possible. Friendships and romances are wonderful things, but human beings come and go, and when they go, you deserve to feel happy even without them.

What happens then? Do we just go around, living the rest of our lives feeling empty and incomplete? You have a responsibility to yourself now, and that is to complete yourself. Work everyday to make yourself whole. Fill the empty parts in your life with things that speak to your soul, like books or cooking or poetry.

Even if it means doing them by yourself. Start being comfortable with spending time alone. After all, you are the person you spend the most time with. Might as well be comfortable around that person. People are great, but they are not yours to possess. You need to have your own life, your own dreams, your own accomplishments. When you begin to work yourself to be the best version you can be and give yourself attention, you begin to believe you are worthy of that attention.

Once you learn to accept loneliness as a common part of life, it will start to realize it no longer has the impact on you it used to have. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. Visual Deer. Pop Culture Analyst. Quiet mind with big ideas. in. Felicia C. Joey Rambles Follow.

If nobody comes to heal your loneliness, start healing yourself instead. Start taking responsibility for yourself. Do things that make you happy. Have your own goals. Allow yourself to feel lonely. I Love You Relationships now. I Love You Follow. Written by Joey Rambles Follow. More From Medium. Dear Love Of My Life,. My first blog story…. The wellness project. Did you not feel wanted as ? Anxious Flower. The love-hate connections.

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